THE DIVINE ABIDINGS
1.  The four divine abidings were mentioned next to the recollections as
meditation subjects (III.105). They are loving-kindness, compassion, gladness
and equanimity. A meditator, who wants to develop firstly loving-kindness
among these, if he is a beginner, should sever the impediments and learn the
meditation subject. Then, when he has done the work connected with the meal
and got rid of any dizziness due to it, he should seat himself comfortably on a
well-prepared seat in a secluded place. To start with, he should review the
danger in hate and the advantage in patience.
Why? Because hate has to be abandoned and patience attained in the
development of this meditation subject, and he cannot abandon unseen dangers
and attain unknown advantages.
Now, the danger in hate should be seen in accordance with such suttas as
this: “Friends, when a man hates, is a prey to hate and his mind is obsessed by
hate, he kills living things, and …” (A I 216). And the advantage in patience
should be understood according to such suttas as these:
“No higher rule, the Buddhas say, than patience,
And no Nibbāna higher than forbearance” (D II 49; Dhp 184);
“Patience in force, in strong array:
’Tis him I call a brahman” (Dhp 399);
“No greater thing exists than patience” (S I 222).
3. Thereupon he should embark upon the development of loving-kindness for
the purpose of secluding the mind from hate seen as a danger and introducing
it to patience known as an advantage.
But when he begins, he must know that some persons are of the wrong sort at
the very beginning and that loving-kindness should be developed towards
certain kinds of persons and not towards certain other kinds at first. 
4. For loving-kindness should not be developed at first towards the following
four kinds of persons: an antipathetic person, a very dearly loved friend, a neutral
person, and a hostile person. Also it should not be developed specifically (see
§49) towards the opposite sex, or towards a dead person.